Helping Children Deal with Loss Course
When Children Grieve Educational Study Group is a six session outreach programme facilitated by Certified Grief Recovery Specialist, Nicky Clifford in conjunction with The Grief Recovery Institute. This illuminating course teaches teachers, parents and anyone who has regular contact with children how to initiate healthy response patterns to grief and empower their children with effective methods for dealing with loss. There are many life experiences that can produce feelings of grief in a child - everything from the death of a relative or pet, a divorce of grandparents or parents to everyday experiences such as moving house or losing a friendship or prized possession.
nobody else seemed to know much about recovery from grief either. Thankfully, the help I needed was there in the form of The Grief Recovery Method by John W James and Russell Friedman.
The first thing I learned; if you are a human being then you are a griever! Flynn was the youngest of my three boys and when he died I found myself fast tracked to an ‘empty nest’ and the realisation that other losses can happen even after the worst thing imaginable.
My bereavement counselling had been beneficial, but I desired self-sufficiency in dealing with ALL losses more effectively. I was surprised to discover that the way we support children through loss of friendship is exactly the same as supporting adults through significant bereavement and so now I endeavour to provide common sense helpful guidance in my personal and professional life as a matter of priority. Too many children and adults experience isolation and confusion because the people around them don’t know what to say.
Education has been my saviour and I am so proud and privileged to pass on my knowledge via my courses, talks and mentoring.
Similarly, I am proud to share my BAFTA nominated documentary film The Charge here on the portal. This film follows me as I appear as a witness for the prosecution and whilst it follows the process of The Crown Prosecution Service, the film will touch your heart.. The BBC are currently showing both series of The Prosecutors on i-player and The Open University use the film globally on their law degree courses. I have chosen happiness and hope that I can share it with you very soon.
This course is a must for anyone who works with children and young people and would like to feel more confident about how to talk to the children in their care, when a loss event occurs, either in the present or past. This course is illuminating and can be fun but the core message is clear that ALL feelings and emotions are valid and the best way to support a child is for them to be heard. There are lots of examples in the textbook that I will use to illustrate the helpful and unhelpful things to say but it is of benefit to have a child in your mind also, either in school or home and of course, we were all children once! 100% attendance is required for all of the sessions to successfully complete the course and receive a certificate.
Helping children deal with loss course - week-by-week
Week One: Introduction (if you feel unsure, please come to our first group meet with no obligations).
Week Two: We learn about the helpful and unhelpful things to say to a child experiencing a grief event (sometimes known as the myths). No newcomers may be admitted after this week in the interest of the group.
Week Three: We talk about Short Term Energy Relieving Behaviours, there are three major problems with s.t.e.r.b.s. The first is that they work, or more accurately, they appear to work. They create an illusion by causing the child to bypass or bury emotion. The second problem with short-term relievers is that they are short term and lastly they do nothing to release the pressure of experiencing the conflicting emotions of grief. Examples may include gaming, eating, anger, rituals etc.